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Kinderwhore was a clothing style worn by a handful of mostly female grunge bands in the US during the early to mid-1990s.

The exact origin of the clothing style is uncertain. It is believed that Kat Bjelland from the band Babes in Toyland was the first to wear and define the look, while her former roommate Courtney Love from the band HOLE was the first to popularize it.

Courtney Love, who popularized kinderwhore, commented in 1994 that 'I would like to think—in my heart of hearts—that I'm changing some psychosexual aspects of rock music. Not that I'm so desirable. I didn't do the kinder-whore thing because I thought I was so hot. When I see the look used to make one more appealing, it pisses me off. When I started, it was a What Ever Happened to Baby Jane? thing. My angle was irony.'

The name 'Kinderwhore' was coined by melody maker journalist Everett True in an interview with Kurt Cobain and Courtney Love (1993). The term was mostly used by the media and less by the musicians themselves.

A often mentioned inspiration for the style are the musicians Kim Shattuck of the band The Muffs, Christine Amphlett of the band Divinyls or Katie Jane Garside of the band Daisy Chainsaw.

The kinderwhore fashion became a source of inspiration for many designers, such as Hedi Slimane, Batsheva Hay, and even Marc Jacobs. In 2019, Batsheva Hay named Courtney Love's "kinderwhore aesthetic" as a big inspiration. Hay said the look was "so of its time, but also so ahead of its time".

Fashion

Kinderwhore fashion was designed to take the most "feminine" aspects of gender roles, inflate them to a cartoonish level, and subvert it all into the rawest, angriest, most badass way possible, where they were not afraid to get as aggressive and confident on stage as their counterparts in the mostly male dominated Grunge scene. Some elements of Kinderwhore fashion include:

peter pan collars
babydoll dresses
slip dresses
mary jane shoes
combat boots
platform shoes
ripped tights
messy makeup
red lipstick
messy hair
bleached blonde hair
hair barrettes
ribbons
soft, pastel colors and materials paired with dark colors
black accessories
lace dresses or dresses with lace accents and cute details
cardigans
faux fur coats
leather jackets
kneesocks
lace socks
heels
chokers, chains, etc

Kinderwhore clothing can most easily be found in charity or thrift shops, or can be DIYed. Kinderwhore is a style within grunge, so the goal is to not look neat and tidy, damaged clothing is better to use for this specific look.

The kinderwhore fashion has resurged in recent years due to social media sites like TikTok, Instagram, and Pinterest, with creators like Lipst1ckteeth.

Fairy grunge is a similar style where the wearer doesn't seem as interested in subverting gender norms, but instead just appreciates the aesthetic appeal of the contrast that Kinderwhore set out to accomplish. Fairy grunge is used to make oneself look more appealing in a way that clashes with Kinderwhore's philosophy, and therefore cannot be called Kinderwhore.

Music

Musically, Kinderwhore fit right alongside their male counterparts in the Grunge scene, taking the world by storm in the 1990s. Some popular Kinderwhore* bands and artists include:

Babes in Toyland
Hole
L7
Jack off Jill
7 Year Bytch and Babes
Excuse 17
Fabulous Disaster
Go Betty Go
Jill Sobule
Lunachicks
The Dollyrots
The Muffs
Margaritas Podridas/Rotten Daisies
Melanie Martinez

* Please note there aren´t really any self-proclaimed 'kinderwhore' artists/musicians, since the term was made by the media to refer to it as a style of fashion!